This blog post is part of the Suicide Prevention Awareness Month blog tour in partnership with Debt Drop. If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741.
You are not your money or your debt. No matter how many figures show up on your bank account balance or your statements each month, you are so much more than a number on a screen or a page. No matter what you have, you are enough.
Money is Tough
In the world as a whole, it is easy to get caught in the comparison trap. It causes debt. Often times, people find themselves in debt in the first place due to buying newer cars, bigger houses, or fancier degrees. But then you realize it doesn’t matter what the Joneses or any other family has. You get determined to do something about your debt. So you start.
That’s easier said than done, though. I’ve taken steps and I’ve made missteps, and the journey is still long. Why did I buy that? When will I feel like the debt is disappearing? How can I get better at money? There is no doubt about it. Money is tough. For every bit of impulse spending that is reined in, unexpected expenses crop up. Balancing e-funds and investments, saving and spending is a difficult act that no one gets right in one try.
Success is Never Simple
In the personal finance world, it is easy to get caught in the comparison trap. It causes doubt. Sometimes, people get so focused on the accomplishments of others in terms of less debt, more income, or more freedom. But then you realize that the only story that matters is yours. You get determined to keep moving forward, keep making progress, keep writing your story. So you continue.
That’s easier said than done, though. Sometimes, I find myself at a loss. Why aren’t things coming together for me faster? When will my story really be worth telling? How can I make money magic happen? The truth is simple. There is nothing easy about money. Success stories are distilled down into single posts after months, if not years and decades of work. While the struggles aren’t always showcased, they happened. There is strength in the struggle.
You Are Enough
It is so easy to let debt cloud out the rest of the picture. Days, weeks, months would pass by where money was all I thought about. Six figures of debt. If so many other people could escape it so quickly, surely I could come up with some sort of solution. Couldn’t I? It controlled my thoughts and disrupted my sleep, blanketing truths like friends love me, family needs me, and sometimes a little hunk of chocolate can really go a long way to making the world just a little bit right again. Virtually every decision I made was based on money. I earned extra money, I got better at investing, and I still felt like I could be doing so much more.
Slowly, I have realized that while I may always be able to do more, what I am right now is enough. I am a step in the right direction. I am wiser than yesterday. I am a few cents richer. I am enough.
So are you.
While I cannot claim to know what it’s like to contemplate suicide as a result of debt, I do know that depression, anxiety, and all other types of mental illness are, in fact, illnesses. We do not cause them. We do not deserve them. We can do something about them.
In addition to talking to your healthcare provider and reaching out to family and friends, here are other resources that may be helpful.
Please note: This is not intended to serve as any type of financial or medical advice. It is merely a reminder that you are enough.
So Tell Me…How do you remind yourself and others that they are enough?