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  1. Ya! It makes me so happy that you went head first into the challenge. I can’t imagine what it must have been like to part with that rose – good for you for recognizing that it didn’t symbolize what you thought it did.

    I might have to make this challenge an annual occurrence! It’s been worthwhile to really think about where our stuff goes when we don’t have space for it in our lives anymore.

    Thanks for doing the challenge, Penny – you’re awesome!

    • I hope you make it an annual occurrence. I think I could do it monthly. Or even weekly. Ugh. I don’t think I could be as sentimental each time, but I can definitely part with more things!

    • That’s the perfect logic! We actually do have pink roses already, so I think that your idea makes me feel even better about my choice.

  2. Sarah

    I’ve been purging regularly as we have a baby on the way and no closets! The idea of minimalism really appeals to me, not having more than we use/need/brings us joy but I also like that it is individual for everyone. What my minimalism looks like is different from others. I have also started working on a capsule wardrobe, although will really have to wait until post baby. Wearing maternity clothes is like a capsule wardrobe lol and I like it. I’ve found Facebook groups a great way to either sell or pass on not needed items. It’s nice that someone will get use out of what no longer serves me:)

    • You are so right that maternity clothes is a capsule wardrobe. I’m currently trying to sort out how I feel about clothes that I haven’t worn in over a year now! It’s so surreal. Everything fits, but a lot of things don’t feel like me anymore. Congrats on the baby! Wishing you the very best and all the health and happiness in the world.

  3. Next Door is such a great site. That’s where we got a whole bunch of baby-related items before our son was born. We got hand me downs, cloth diapers, toys and even a stroller we still use to this day. And with the neighborhood concept, we didn’t have to worry about driving far to pick them up since all the people them away were within a two mile radius from our place.
    If we don’t have another kid in the next several years we are going back to Next Door and start giving them away.

  4. kddomingue

    Well, neither the husband not I are what you would describe as minimalists. BUT. We have been steadily decluttering over the last few years. Both of us somehow got the “Great Depression mentality” gene from our grandparents. And we are both sentimental. We had a lot of stuff, lol! And we’ve made do with secondhand and hand-me-down stuff for most of our 38 years of marriage. And that was our choice, we don’t regret it. However, we finally admitted to ourselves that my late mother-in-law’s taste in furniture just isn’t ours…..and the furniture is not all that comfortable. So we’ve decided to sell all of the furniture in our home that was hers with the exception of the china cabinet and dining table. Those two items are the ones that hold meaning for my husband. We’re even selling the chairs that go with the table as we don’t find them comfortable. Once we made that decision, we did something very uncharacteristic for us. We went out, we found furniture that fit us, is comfortable and is our style. And we bought it. I have a lovely leather sectional sofa with clean simple lines being delivered in a week with a ottoman. Also a small scale, simple lined rocker, swivel recliner that fits the hubs perfectly. A lot of furniture is leaving, very little is coming in. So, even though it wasn’t a frugal choice, it did result in minimizing in May, lol! We kept the things that mattered to the hubs and let go of the things that didn’t. I’ve got a few things that I’ve realised don’t really matter to me any more that will be leaving as well. I realised that sometimes you become so habituated to thinking that something matters to you that you never think to periodically check in with yourself to see if that’s still true. Humans are weird. Right?

    • Sometimes minimizing is the opposite of frugal, but I think frugality might allow us to let go and replace if that makes sense. I hope you enjoy your new additions. It sounds like a perfect (and perfectly comfy!) choice!

      • kddomingue

        I hope we do too! We wrestled with the decision for a good while. The turning point, I believe, came one night while we were watching tv and realized that we’d both been sitting on the floor with our backs against the sofa instead of sitting ON the sofa for a few nights in a row, lol! Doesn’t do you a bit of good to have a house full of furniture that you don’t sit on, right? And at 58 and 60, sitting on the floor just ain’t as comfortable as it was a few years back!

  5. Jody

    I just finished moving into a new place post-divorce. I’m still unpacking and settling in. 90% of my stuff has been in boxes for nearly 2 years, and once I realized that fact I figured I didn’t need most of it, right?

    Going through it is a challenge to say the least. I’m an only child and my mother was a pack rat – for example, she kept every piece of paper I brought home from school K-12, I’m not joking. She gave it to me in boxes a few weeks after the wedding. I kept 1 thing (my final Kindergarten report card was hilarious) an burned the rest.

    But some of the stuff I have now is old family stuff from, oh, I dunno, the past 100-150 years of family history? I have no siblings to share it with, and some of it is historical Americana. Like legitimate stuff the National Park Service or local historical society might be interested in. I can’t throw it out, of course, but I have minimal storage where I’m at now and I need to pack a lot of it back up and what good does it do there? Is it safe or is it going to get ruined? It is going to be very difficult to manage this as, like you, I lean toward sentimental.

    Current decluttering: in May I sold a leather recliner, a fruit press (wine making), and a purse I wasn’t using and made $345. Carload of stuff to donations. Lots of cardboard recycling. We’ll see what happens in June.

    • I am an only child also, and I feel you so hard on this. Wow. It’s like it is my responsibility to hold onto all the stuff (even if no one really wants it).

  6. The sentimental and nostalgia issues are the ones I fight with. My wife would love it if I tossed out my picture album, with all my old girlfriends from high school and early 20s. Just can’t do it. Even things I made as child in wood shop and metal shop. I mean it only comes down to a couple of boxes I never go through, but it’s hard to let it go when you’re living over 2500 miles from where you grew up.

    • I still live a stone’s throw away from where I grew up, and I think you’re right, Brent. It’s easier because I can revisit. Hmm. I hadn’t considered that before!

  7. I often sing the song “Let it Go!” when I am decluttering. I have the same issue with sentiment, and it’s so helpful to remind myself that I will still love and remember my mom even if I don’t have every note she ever wrote me (for example). I stick all of them in one big box and then pick my favorites (this is a work in progress, but I’ve done this with lots of sentimental things). Letting go is so hard in the moment but so worth it in the day to day when the house is easier to clean.

  8. My slow de-cluttering post-relationship is going very slowly. I have gotten rid of some digital clutter, but not yet all of the photos of her from my phone. Even though I’ve printed them off and am absolutely glad I’m not dating her anymore. Humans are funny.

    I still feel overwhelmed by my room and am having a hard time getting it into good condition. Some stuff definitely needs to go and I need to organize the space, but the project feels too big. It’s silly. I live in a relatively small amount of space and it would feel nicer if I made it less cramped. But to tackle it feels too big. Maybe one box can be handled today.

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