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  1. Dave

    I take being called frugal as a compliment at this point. I draw the line at cheap, though. People use those words interchangeably sometimes, but they are very different. And if they understand the difference and still call me cheap, well then I’m definitely offended!

  2. Frugality has so many positive benefits, but I also struggle with the reined in experiential spending. In the past, if I wanted to do something fun that cost a bit of money, I’d do it (like wine festivals, amusement parks, skiing, dinner out, happy hours, and vacations) without budgeting first. This, obviously, contributed to debt. A lot of it. The hardest is when one of the kids or the husband expresses interest in spending on an experience I would have said “yes” without thinking in the past. It’s hard to find the happy medium of choosing carefully what and how to spend.

    • Oh my word, this! Reining in experiential spending is so hard for me. I don’t want to be seen as a party pooper or feel like I’m missing out (serious case of FOMO going all the time). I also don’t like to be called frugal. Which is silly. Because it’s such a great thing to be. But man it is very hard to maintain, month in and month out.

  3. Lol, I love this. I’m on the other side of the spectrum though regarding clothes. I feel that now that I have significantly fewer pieces that I love, fit well and fell very “me” I get more compliments.
    The awkward part is when a new friend invites me clothes shopping and I’m like: Thanks, but I don’t do that…

  4. Hi Penny – I think nowadays I am in the past caring what others think camp! I am happy and proud to be called frugal….I look at it as an efficient balancing of my values and spending.

    But then it’s interesting how I have slowly moved away from all the spendier people…

  5. k

    I used to get upset when college friends would judge me for being frugal (not eating out much, not buying many new clothes, etc.). Unlike my friends I hadn’t taken out student loans and didn’t have extra cash to spend.

    A decade down the road I am thankful I made the decisions I did. I am not saddled with student debt because I didn’t take out loans for anything that wasn’t absolutely essential.

    I’ve also learned that it is ok to be frugal. Compared to a used car, a new car will not make me a better person or my life significantly better. I want to teach my children the importance of spending only on what you need. Another lesson I’m focusing on is how to tell when something is only a want, not a need.

    • I agree with all of this, and it’s definitely what I’m striving toward. It took me a long time to realize why my mom was all about shopping and *things*. Growing up poor, she didn’t have anything. And when she finally started to fight her way out, *things* were that marker of success. So that rubbed off on me, but in a totally unnecessary way. It’s funny how it took so long for that to click, though!

  6. Growing up I was always surrounded with a television. Every room in our home had a TV and cable so I always knew what was going on in the world and watched the latest episode of popular TV sitcoms. It felt like I needed to do that just to catch up with friends to be involved in those conversations and understand the inside jokes of those shows.
    When I got married and moved in with my wife, we only had one TV and no cable which was a big adjustment for me. But as I got adapted to it and found other means of entertainment(reading books and youtube) I figured that their really isn’t a need to watch TV a lot. In fact, I barely watch any nowadays. Kind of wished that I cut down on my TV watching growing up because most of it waste of time and could have done other stuff more meaningful to me.

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